5 REMINDERS FOR WHEN YOU FEEL LIKE YOU'RE FAILING.

20.7.20

I'm quite possibly the worst advocate when it comes to being positive Polly, screaming and shouting about the good things in life seem to be more effort than I'd like. 

Ironically I think to an untrained eye; IRL you'd probably find me quite upbeat and happy, but I think to those who really know me, will admit I'm quite the opposite. After reading Jess's post about the five ways she's already failed this year, I began thinking about mine and wanted to find a way of sharing them with you.

See The Stars - Reminders for when you feel like you're failing

Although this is very much the kind of post I want to share in the future; the idea of sharing those thoughts left me feeling more depressed that I'd anticipated, so we're trying something a little different today and we're going to talk through some positive and reassuring reminders for those times when we do fail. 

Like Jess' post pointed out, we all fail at something and realistically it's how we react to it and what we do afterwards that really matters. 

Now I'm not saying that I'm always good at taking on board the good from the bad, when I fail it effects me massively, sometimes it takes me day to recover from bad news; so it's about time I admit that this post isn't just for you, but a reminder for me too. 

I want to have a space where I can return too and remind myself why it's okay that life throws curveballs from time to time, a reminder that being good at everything doesn't make me perfect and that failure teaches us a lot more about life and ourselves than we ever give it credit for. 

See The Stars - Reminders for when you feel like you're failing

Excuse me while this becomes the most clique post with all it's almost *cringe* self-help quotes, but sometimes it's necessary, okay? 

YOUR CURRENT SITUATION IS GIVING YOU AN OPPORTUNITY TO RE-EVALUATE WHAT YOU WANT. 
Hands up if you've felt personally victimised from failure? Yep, me too. More often than I should admit too, but one of my biggest realisations (& this is possibly thanks to J and his optimism) but unless you're in that position, unless you're experienced that initial failure, you're instantly stunting that growth and not recognising that every situation will give you a new opportunity. I quit my job, and that failure has weighed heavy on me - but from making that decision, I've found growth in more ways than one, hello new found confidence, a fun new job and opportunity to make my blogging more successful...and cute, this nicely leads into the next reminder. 

BETTER AN OOPS THAN A WHAT IF. 
Personally, I needed this quick reminder! Whilst failing can leave you feeling quite miserable for some time and constantly leaves you feeling like quitting is the only option; be proud of the fact you've made the jump. I spent my teen years very romanticised with fate; reminding myself everything happens for a reason, and it'll come at the *right* moment, and truth be told, that will only become reality if I don't quit after my first attempt, embrace what if and see what you've achieve just from trying. 

STRIVE FOR PROGRESS, NOT PERFECTION. 
This ones pretty simple, so all I'll say is be proud that you've tried, you're already one step closer to succeeding just by making that initial jump and whether it results in mistakes or mishaps, you've tried and 
every failure is a lesson learnt and if I were you, remember this and be proud of yourself, always. 

See The Stars - Reminders for when you feel like you're failing

MAKE HAPPINESS A PRIORITY AND BE GENTLE WITH YOURSELF IN THE PROCESS. 
Say it louder for those in the back!! I couldn't tell you the amount of times I've struggled with this, the amount of times I've let my failures determine my happiness and whether I'm allowed happiness in the future because of it. I can't begin to describe how mentally draining this is either, so this is your reminder to, stop blaming yourself, stop putting pressure or denying yourself happiness when something doesn't go to plan, you're worth so much more than the mistakes made in life. Truth the process, accept the downfalls and make being happy your number one priority. 

TRUST THE NEXT CHAPTER BECAUSE YOU ARE THE AUTHOR. 
Just throwing this cheeky clique in to end this post; because c'mon it's cute. A recurring theme throughout this post has been the reminder than everything we go through is part of the process and this is just another one of those points! We're constantly learning and building from our past, the failures give us a thicker skin for our next problem and all we can do is accept that this happens and take it all on board, learn from our mistakes and use them to be a stronger and better person for that next chapter. 

I don't know how I've managed to get through this post so positively...maybe it's because it's the fact I've been in a slightly better head space recently. I know I'll continue to use this as a reference for any future 'bad days' and I'll continued to pin some cute quotes on pinterest in the hopes to keep us all motivated when we begin to feel like negative nelly's again. 

I'm always on the hunt for more reminders and searching for ways of keeping a happier mindset, so how do you do it? What do you use to remind yourself of the good when you're feeling this way? 

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